tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140695418399989226.post6767207890164843844..comments2023-12-15T02:46:40.096-08:00Comments on Lacking expectations: Why don't you just.....?Jane Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14515914204369553638noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140695418399989226.post-36613563905011084102009-10-26T08:24:13.476-07:002009-10-26T08:24:13.476-07:00A brilliant post! Well done...A brilliant post! Well done...Pamela T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11474998003921896431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140695418399989226.post-51812968672766604812009-10-20T12:45:57.699-07:002009-10-20T12:45:57.699-07:00You said it, Sister! I love the "ban natural...You said it, Sister! I love the "ban natural conception" come-back! You rock!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140695418399989226.post-87527543037523685282009-10-16T03:39:40.133-07:002009-10-16T03:39:40.133-07:00@ WFI - That is really laughable.
@ Xbox - Not s...@ WFI - That is really laughable. <br /><br />@ Xbox - Not suprised that PK asked you that. It's typical of the kind of crap he would come out with. <br /><br />@ Just Nesting - Thanks for stopping by. I read some of those NYT articles from links on Facebook. Some of the comments were extremely ugly.<br /><br />@ May - Another factor is cost. Somehow people think that adoption is a more affordable option. A friend of mine told me that an in law of hers adopted from Latin America and it cost them in the region of €30K.<br /><br />@ PIB - Strange that they seem to pick people who already have kids. But then maybe they are the ones who have proved themselves to be good parents.<br /><br />@ C - Exactly, it's just not for everyone. And from what I have heard, social workers can ask some very personal questions. I often wonder if the fact that this is my second marriage would go against me in a situation like this?Jane Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14515914204369553638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140695418399989226.post-55482032431034815552009-10-14T14:34:25.825-07:002009-10-14T14:34:25.825-07:00Thank you so much for posting this. I, too, get so...Thank you so much for posting this. I, too, get soooo tired of the adoption comments. I'm not up to date on adopting internationally as an Irish citizen, but I know that it has become MUCH more difficult in the U.S. in the past few years. Vietnam, Guatemala, and Belarus are closed, and my understanding is that most agencies are not taking applications for China because the placement time is now often over 3 years. International adoption is very expensive, add in a home study, background check, medical clearance, etc, etc. It's expensive, complicated, and not for everyone. <br /><br />((HUGE HUGS))Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09209567864607495587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140695418399989226.post-37015349215898496602009-10-14T13:18:07.253-07:002009-10-14T13:18:07.253-07:00Argh a landmine there.
Sort of the same here. But...Argh a landmine there.<br />Sort of the same here. But this is how is is for us:<br /><br />I have friends who have been on the "list"for years (although I understand it is not a list as such as each mother chooses the adoptive parents so it's not on top who is the winner). <br />They have mentioned that strangly enough the couples who get picked more often have a child or two already.(they have done IVF in the meantime and have a two year old but still havn't been picked)<br />There are few adoptions adoptions outside of immediate families since our government now pays so well for single mums to sit at home and spit out kids.<br />We may already be considered too old as C is now in his mid 40s<br />C is not too keen on adopting someone elses kid<br /><br />Adoption is not a easy option. Idiots who think it is.BABY STEPShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14869922972057725214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140695418399989226.post-46444474897646869442009-10-12T15:21:24.883-07:002009-10-12T15:21:24.883-07:00Your last paragraph is just perfect.
I don't...Your last paragraph is just perfect. <br /><br />I don't adopt because there were adoptions in my family, and my family have behaved DISGRACEFULLY about them, and like HELL am I going to do that to my child, putting him or her through the cretinous questions and sneery remarks and being slighted at Christmas. Not doing it. <br /><br />(Also, I can't afford it. They don't fund adoption on the NHS).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140695418399989226.post-28080561944346702992009-10-12T15:10:06.168-07:002009-10-12T15:10:06.168-07:00Oh, I love your last line. Perfection. I really ...Oh, I love your last line. Perfection. I really don't get the animosity towards infertiles. And it's ugly. If you don't believe it read the next NY Times article about anything to do with infertility and then read the comments. It's brutal. Is this what folks are really thinking behind our backs?Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14950667009108390498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140695418399989226.post-34856355324447960422009-10-12T13:30:29.273-07:002009-10-12T13:30:29.273-07:00This is one that always annoyed me too, but I coul...This is one that always annoyed me too, but I could never articulately respond to. Even Mr Kenny asked me if I remember rightly.<br /><br />You can't just switch off from your conception attempts, you can't be trying and trying for feckin years only to say all right I'll stick my name down for an old adoption, sure you never know!<br /><br />You can't do either by halves. Just wouldn't be fair on anyone.<br /><br />I bloody love these people with their sweeping solutions too.Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11044403947730363259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140695418399989226.post-64052284144888536352009-10-12T11:09:00.094-07:002009-10-12T11:09:00.094-07:00My personal favourite?
When a mother of two told...My personal favourite? <br /><br />When a mother of two told me that she thought adopting must be the most rewarding thing in the world, only she couldn't adopt because she had her hands full with her own kids!Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07336643483655255680noreply@blogger.com